Honor Your King, oh Adorable Queen!
Now, here we are girls..the last type of three ... => the KING, Mr. Command Man.
In this book, it's written that this man is extreme~! I've never quite understood what it was to be extreme 'til I heard the example my girl gave about the Kingly type!
Yes, one of my girls mentioned the most annoying guy we ever known, as Kingly type. He's so controlling, demanding! He shows everyone that his girlfriend (now, his wife) is his, and no one can ever have her (we're no longer be friends with her after they're together...huhu, posesif)
I know, it seems so extreme -- but he's really there, and don't worry, girls, he is definitely the extremely negative King! >.<
For me, personally - when I tried to think guys around me who are Kingly enough, to be honest with ya, I couldn't find any~! haha! But, but!!! I remember all the leaders on this planet earth! Extreme yeah!? Semua pemimpin yg hebat - para hamba Tuhan besar, ooh~~ they're blessed and trusted with the characters of our God the Father - dominant, sovereign, and in command!
And, why did I have a hard time to find guys around me? Because God created just a few! (And I didn't try hard enough..hahaha) Oh yeah, this world needs several leaders only with a lot of people to follow :)
King Triton is one of them :D
Here's why I realized how extreme this man could be!
If, this man uses his nature of leadership - commanding or anything in negative way, oh yeah - you find yourself, an annoying - hard to live with - do whatever it takes to get what he wants - guy!
But, if by God's grace, he knows if there is a reason God gives him the privilege - he will lead his family, his company, his church, or anything he's involved to the top.
And -- we, hey girls, who are HELP MEETs - if we ever married to this guy, remember this - you could be a blessing or a curse to many people by how you related to your Command Man.
(banyak sekali kisah di Alkitab, or di dunia jaman ini, mana istri presiden yg bikin kaco - mana istri presiden bikin suaminya makin melambung ... ) Now, you know what I am trying to tell you, rite!? --> gimana jadi istri presiden yg keren!!
First, for he is a King - he EXPECTS you to wait on him hand and foot. He doesn't want you involved in any project that prevents you from SERVING him.
So, learn now to serve with JOY :)
He usually loves fine meals served on time and in good order. But, don't expect him to help you in the kitchen, okay? It's not under his authority! The kitchen is your kingdom!! Yihiiiiii~
My friend added, "OH, siapin baju buat dia kerja!"
Don't you think it's cute? Or, maybe you think "aduh reseh deh!" tapi trust me, girls, deep inside our hearts .. kita punya hati suka ngatur2 baju orang (hello0000, kenapa ada Barbie?)
So, be happy if you are married with this guy! Because he expects you to do it! Clicks ;)
He is not intimate or vulnerable in sharing his feelings with you. He seems to be sufficient unto himself. You may feel shut out. This is how you need to do to "earn" his heart = prove that you will stand by him, faithful, loyal and obedient. When you have won his confidence, he will treasure you to the EXTREME!
Ok, he is a king! He has vision! So, if you don't support him, sorry ladies to tell you, he will go on without you! But if you do, he will honor you with glory.
The Kingly Man feels it his duty and responsibility to lead people. (oh, how we need a leader, not every people have confidence to lead!). And you know, nature kebanyakan orang - kalo pemimpin salah di-protes, kalo benar belum tentu di-puji! The road is not easy. So, the wife! You need to stand by him. He will grow much faster as a man and a leader if you march forward as a couple united in mind and heart. If you pray for him, support him, encourage him, and act as his faithful right hand man, he will be more capable to serve a greater number in wisdom and humility.
Since he is a King - means he needs a queen! So, you are the Queen to share his fame and glory. And since you are "just" a queen, be content to take the second seat (oh, come on, girls, be humble, you are on the Queen seat!).
If a wife learns early to enjoy the benefits of taking the second seat, and if she does not take offense to his headstrong aggressiveness, she will be the one sitting at his right side being adored, because this kind of man will totally adore his woman and exalt her. She will be his closest and sometimes his only confidante.
You will love it! Wanita mana yg ga mau di-adore and exalt? Yes, baby, you are his queen. So, act as one! Think before you do something .. again, I think it's a call to every girls to do good to our husbands all the days of our lives. (Proverbs 31:12)
He loves to control! It is his nature. He wants to know where you are, what you are doing, and why! He will correct you!
Ok, maybe you might think... "oouch, who does he think he is?" He is your husband! and maybe, it seems he's over protective .. yeah, it's most likely to happen, apalagi kalo your guy not that mature ... BUT, if he is so loving and mature ... once again, I will say --- you will love it! Let's be honest with ourselves, we love when our men are crazy about us, rite? So, if you ever marry to this guy.... it is his nature, be content - and let me give you extra tips ... always let him know where you are - what you are doing and why, and make sure you get his approval :)
He likes to talk about plans, ideas and unfinished projects. He will be very objective, very unemotional, and not enjoy small talk. His vision is like a man looking from a high mountain, focused on the distant goal. The wife needs to help him remember individual's needs. Bring him back to the earth..
Money! You will feel secure in your husband's ability to take care of you, due to his commanding confidence. So, be rest - let him do the command on how you should spend the money. You won't win.
Whether you are married to a King or any kind, you know that it's God's will to submit and obey your husbands.
Here's one thing you must really understand. When a Kingly Man (lost or saved) is treated with honor and reverence, a good help meet will find that her man will be wonderfully protective and supportive (oh, admit, you want it -- but, please do your part first! Honor him!!!).
In most marriages, the strife is not because the man is cruel or evil, it is because he expects obedience, honor and reverence, and is not getting it. Thus, he reacts badly. :(
So, my respectable girls, which kind of help meet you want to be?
Be honest, and do the work! :D
PS. maybe after you read all the three, you started to create your own fantasy (me wants a prophet - or I want to be a queen - or please, God, gimme steady man). Alrite, I will share what I think (from what I learnt) about this on my next writing :)
Ooooh, and you will like it as well - the next chapter of
Preparing to be a Help Meet is Three Types of Women. So, please wait next week yaaaaaa!!!
God bless!
King Triton is one of them :D 
I hope you realize what you're doing to the progress we (females) have made so far: un-doing it. Your thoughts and opinions clearly reflect your shallow, narrow-minded christian upbringing. You may think you're serving for the greater good of women, but puh-lee-a-se by putting ourselves beneath men? By literally telling us to find husbands that you describe as "Kingly", and to adore and serve, and to willingly, naively, and blindly surrender to every non-sense the "Kingly" men are doing to us. Might as well you pack your stuff and travel back in time to the early 19th century when clearly those people would have suited you better than today's society. They would certainly appreciate your help.
ReplyDeleteI understand your concern, these kingly types are prone to being oppressive if they do not realize who they are before God, so the negative potential is there and is very real. But on the other hand, the positive potential of these types is the biggest among the types, they can have the widest impact in their kingly, leadership roles.
ReplyDeleteAs mentioned above, there are only a few of these kingly types and they do need supportive women so that they can fulfill their God-given kingly roles to the fullest, which are mostly leadership roles with vast responsibilities.
I agree that not all women are well-suited for these types and that is just as well, since these types of men are not that many.
Some women might be more suited for the other types. Please read about the other two types (prophet and priest) to have a more complete picture.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts :)
we're no longer be friends with her after they're together...huhu, posesif
ReplyDeletei feel what you felt ci.. aku jg punya temen yg begitu. ckck.. parah n gak banget deh.. ==''
duhhh im so in love with this type haha.. aku baru tau loh kalo type ini suka dikabarin, kemana2.. "He wants to know where you are, what you are doing, and why! He will correct you!" thanks for sharing this, open up my eyes wider and wider :)
Tapi kayanya dari semua, tipe ini yang paling susah ya ci untuk adapt? Dan kenapa Tuhan ciptain cuma sedikit, gak sebanyak visionary and steady man?
hihi, iya, tapi tenang aja Ni, itu yg tipe extremely negatif kok :)
ReplyDeleteso, we really2 need to pray - if God wants you to be with a King ya - supaya his power bisa sungguh2 dipake to bless others.
hmmm, sepertinya paling susah untuk adapt, krn he expects cukup banyak kan? tapi sebenernya kalo mnrt cici, each type of man perlu adaptasi yg berbeda juga - tergantung karakter dasar kita. nah, itulah makanya perlu willingness dari kita (cewe) to adapt.
Dari segi persentase, paling banyak steady man, lalu visionary, and paling dikit adalah command man. Karena dari segi "kebutuhan", we need fewer leaders, rite? Bisa bayangin ga, kalo semua cowo mau nge-lead? hehe..siapa yg mau dipimpin and do the work?
gak sabaaaarrr yg three types of womeeenn!!!! Cepetan ciiii!!! hahahahah
ReplyDeletehahaha...diusahakan secepatnya :)
ReplyDeleteErlyn... ga nyangka nemu blog elo. It's Renny, SMUK 1, setaun atas elo, inget gak?
ReplyDeleteMenarik banget pembahasan three types of men nya. Pas gw baca post yg summary of three types men, gw dah ngerasa cowo gw separo King separo Priest nih. Tp di post sebelum ini lo comment blg ga mkgn 50-50... well, I think my bf is 50-50 King n Priest (menurut gw loh yaaaaa). Such a blessing reading your blog. Mau nerusin baca yg three types of women ah :)